I recently sat down with a friend and had a nice chat. Our talks circled around mom life and our experiences. She expressed some feelings she was having about choices she has recently had to make about how she was raising her children. It made me think of my second day at the hospital after having the boys and when I was talking to the nurse when she was asking how I was doing and some of my plans when I got home and suddenly had 4 children to worry about. I began to tell my friend those same thoughts of my own about how I was going to become the everything mom.
I’m not focusing on any technique at all. I’m prepared to try everything, hence the everything mom. Every mom has methods she favors and that is great, we need to learn to offer our ideas as advice rather than use them as criticism. Some moms like the Happiest Baby on the Block, some the Baby Whisperer, some co-sleep, some breastfeed. We all need to just keep trying different things to see what works. As moms we are all different and our babies are all different too so we aren’t going to find that what works for us will work for our friends. Along the way we will find friends who have had similar success with the same methods as ourselves. No matter what we need to support our fellow moms and help each other out. We need to lift each other up instead of looking down our noses at each other for using different methods because they work.
I encourage you all to help empower your fellow mommies. I too have been guilty of judging others, but since the boys I am keeping an open mind to all options out there because I too one day might be in similar shoes and have to make decisions I didn’t think I would make or just needing to try something different. We all want and need to be supported during our trials as parents and sometimes being a mom is the hardest job. We do not need to add feelings of guilt to those pressures.
So as a happy thought hug a mom in your life you know, offer a kind word or a smile. You never know if you may just help make a moms day. Also let us not forget the daddies either and remember that dads go through all of this as well.
From our happy family to yours.